Have you ever said that you would like to experience true biblical community?
Like many others that walk through the doors of Family Church, I have felt lonely at times.
The exciting thing is that God’s Word has a solution for all of us!
Below, you will find five steps that can help you move toward biblical community.
The fun piece about the process of experiencing biblical community is that you do not have to do all five steps at one time.
Let’s take a look!
Step 1: STEP OUT – Building a great friendship and experiencing true biblical community starts with a first step. First steps can include:
• Listening and engaging in social settings.
• Focusing the conversation on the other person.
• Praying that people will sense your genuine care for them and their circumstances.
• Attending an event for women/men/couples or a series at your church.
Step 2: FOLLOW UP – Remember a detail. It catches the attention of other people when we follow up on topics that they spoke to us about in our first encounter.
• Ask how their doctor visit went.
• Bring up their favorite sports team.
• Be consistent in the follow-up. If we act interested in one encounter, and the next time we barely have a moment for them, they will immediately question our interest in them.
Step 3: SPEND TIME TOGETHER – Meet up at Starbucks, McDonald’s or the Sporting Goods Store.
• Don’t Get Discouraged! Ask again. Then, ask again.
• Understand that you may catch someone in an abnormally busy season of life and it is truly impossible for him or her to get together.
• Find a natural connection.
• Have someone meet you for coffee before church or a church event.
Step 4: BE HONEST – It is important from the very beginning of the friendship to be honest about who you are and what is important to you. God is highest priority in your life and will, hopefully, be in the conversations from the beginning.
• If this friendship is being built between two or three Christians – make God a very comfortable part of the conversation.
• It is important to be authentic and real at a pace that fits for both people.
• Many people get scared away if they know everything about you and there are no secrets after a first or second talk. Remember, you are not in a hurry.
Step 5: STUDY GOD’S WORD TOGETHER – Wouldn’t it be great if God/Bible talk were a part of every meaningful relationship? Biblical community is greatly enhanced when it is not weird for God/Bible talk to be scattered throughout any conversation.
• If you are at an event – do the assignments and don’t just talk about last night’s ballgame or child issue.
• Agree to attend a women or men’s event that makes it easy to talk about God’s Word and its affect on your life.
• Ask this new friend to help you lead a small group and both of you bring a friend.
Now you have a foundation to build on. You can truly learn how to give to others, love others, serve others, care for the needy, and reach the lost – which will help you achieve true biblical community.
The years that follow will offer opportunities to love in a way that proves we are disciples of Jesus Christ.
John 13:34-35 – “So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.”