5 Steps To Biblical Community

iStock_000050293960_Small

Have you ever said that you would like to experience true biblical community?

Like many others that walk through the doors of Family Church, I have felt lonely at times.

The exciting thing is that God’s Word has a solution for all of us!

Below, you will find five steps that can help you move toward biblical community.

The fun piece about the process of experiencing biblical community is that you do not have to do all five steps at one time.

Let’s take a look!

Step 1: STEP OUT – Building a great friendship and experiencing true biblical community starts with a first step. First steps can include:

• Listening and engaging in social settings.
• Focusing the conversation on the other person.
• Praying that people will sense your genuine care for them and their circumstances.
• Attending an event for women/men/couples or a series at your church.

Step 2: FOLLOW UP – Remember a detail. It catches the attention of other people when we follow up on topics that they spoke to us about in our first encounter.

• Ask how their doctor visit went.
• Bring up their favorite sports team.
• Be consistent in the follow-up. If we act interested in one encounter, and the next time we barely have a moment for them, they will immediately question our interest         in them.

Step 3: SPEND TIME TOGETHER – Meet up at Starbucks, McDonald’s or the Sporting Goods Store.

• Don’t Get Discouraged! Ask again. Then, ask again.
• Understand that you may catch someone in an abnormally busy season of life and it is truly impossible for him or her to get together.
• Find a natural connection.
• Have someone meet you for coffee before church or a church event.

Step 4: BE HONEST – It is important from the very beginning of the friendship to be honest about who you are and what is important to you. God is highest priority in your life and will, hopefully, be in the conversations from the beginning.

• If this friendship is being built between two or three Christians – make God a very comfortable part of the conversation.
• It is important to be authentic and real at a pace that fits for both people.
• Many people get scared away if they know everything about you and there are no secrets after a first or second talk. Remember, you are not in a hurry.

Step 5: STUDY GOD’S WORD TOGETHER – Wouldn’t it be great if God/Bible talk were a part of every meaningful relationship? Biblical community is greatly enhanced when it is not weird for God/Bible talk to be scattered throughout any conversation.

• If you are at an event – do the assignments and don’t just talk about last night’s ballgame or child issue.
• Agree to attend a women or men’s event that makes it easy to talk about God’s Word and its affect on your life.
• Ask this new friend to help you lead a small group and both of you bring a friend.

Now you have a foundation to build on. You can truly learn how to give to others, love others, serve others, care for the needy, and reach the lost – which will help you achieve true biblical community.

The years that follow will offer opportunities to love in a way that proves we are disciples of Jesus Christ.

John 13:34-35 – “So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.”

Repeat…Repeat…Repeat

I’m Tired of Being Overweight!

Basic RGB

I’m Tired of Being Overweight!

Three Ways I’m Cutting the Spiritual Fat In My Life

I can still hear one of my freshman coaches screaming at me from the sidelines during our football jamboree, “Get in shape, Beck!” I ran the ball 32 times that game and I was exhausted—mainly because I was out of shape.

Although it wouldn’t hurt for me to shed a few pounds and lose a few inches around my midsection right now, I’m not talking at all about shedding physical weight. Instead, I’m talking about the spiritual excess weight that I carry around.

Just as the excess weight we carry in our bodies can slow us down, make us tired physically, mentally and emotionally (as well as keep us from reaching our maximum potential), the extra spiritual weight we carry around has even more potential to hinder us from becoming the person God intends for us to be.

Even though I weighed over 200 pounds in high school, I could run fast. I ran a 40 yard dash in 4.4 seconds my senior year and placed third in the 100 meter race in the state finals.

One of the keys to keeping my speed and preventing extra time from being added to the race, was making sure I wasn’t carrying around any unnecessary, excess weight that would slow me down!

Much like a track race, our lives are a race! However, life’s race isn’t necessarily about finishing fast (like the races I used to run), but in staying  the course, enduring,  finishing, and winning an eternal prize!

Now, most of us do not like to reveal how much we physically weigh – can I get an amen? – but I want to get real transparent and honest with you about my spiritual weight.

So, here it goes.

I’m shedding spiritual weight in three areas:

#1 The Weight of Worry

Proverbs 12:25 tells us, “Worry weighs a person down…”

I’m tired of the weight of worry slowing me down. I can worry about all kinds of things – from my present circumstances to my future unknowns!

Certain studies have shown that 40% of the things we worry about never happen anyway!

When we worry, it reveals our lack of trust and faith in God. Not to mention how it robs us of the peace He wants to give!

There’s a better way! There’s God’s way!

Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.”

This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be concerned about some things; it just means we shouldn’t worry about them—big difference!

I plan on losing a lot of spiritual weight in this area!

#2 The Weight of the Tongue

I really do hate admitting this—I can have a fat tongue! Now, this doesn’t mean as a pastor, I break people’s sacred trust—I don’t. What is said to me in confidence stays between me, the other person, and God.

What I mean by a fat tongue is that I can still spout off things that run through my mind without properly filtering them. That’s gotten me in a lot of trouble in my marriage, my job, and other relationships.

My tongue could stand to lose about five pounds! What about yours?

“Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut, and you will stay out of trouble.” (Proverbs 21:23)

#3 The Weight of Fear

As a young boy, my dad used to drop me off in my deer stand well before daylight. I would hear so many sounds that would lead me to believe that at any moment a monster or serial killer was about to step out from behind a tree and get me. I know that fear can do some crazy things to us, if we allow it to do so.

Fear has a way of weighing us down. It can frighten us into a corner and keep us from taking a step of faith we need to take. It can hinder us from apologizing to someone we need to apologize to because of fear of rejection. It can freeze us like a deer in headlights keeping us from doing something  that God has called us to do. It can play games with our minds.

This year, I’m shedding fear by being filled with the courage that comes from knowing God and knowing that HE is with me.

Think of how fear must have tried to grab hold of the heart of Joshua when he took the place of Moses and was called to lead the Israelites into the Promised Land of God!

Maybe that’s why the Lord told him, “This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” (Joshua 1:9)

Man, I have a lot of weight to lose this year and I know I can’t lose it all at once, However, by the end of 2016 I’m hoping to shed this weight, be more fit, and run the race God has set before me in victory!

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us. (Hebrews 12:1)

What weight(s) have you been carrying around that you need to shed?

What steps will you take in order to do that?

2016 could be, should be, can be your best year yet! Grab hold of the promises of God for your life found in His Word!

Happy New Year!

Podcast Ep: 065 Overcomers | Failure | Pastor Beck Payne

9

Here is your podcast episode for this week!

All you have to do is press play below. Have a great day!

Scripture: 2 Samuel 11:1-27

Learning from David’s Downfall (failure)

  1. Laziness (Spiritually)
  1. Lust (Adultery)
  1. Lying and Murder (Cover-up)

There are ALWAYS consequences when we fail (sin).

Our sin not only affects us, but affects others as well.

Learning from the Life of David as an Overcomer of Failure

Scripture: 2 Samuel 12:1-13

  1. Take Responsibility
  1. Repent
  1. Be Restored
  1. Remember, your failure doesn’t have to define you.

Scripture: 1 Kings 15:1-5

Play

Hope For The Discouraged – Pastor Beck Payne

iStock_000005659770Small

James clearly states that in life trouble WILL come our way (James 1:2).  As believers, we will be opposed by the enemy, by the world.  In fact, “life” itself can be very, very difficult.

It is easy to fall prey to doubt, fear, and unbelief.  If we aren’t careful, we can begin to complain, whine, and blame others for our troubles.  If we look at our “troubles” through the proper lens, they can become an opportunity and not just a trouble with no end.

James goes on to say that JOY is something that comes from the inside out, not from our outer circumstances. Our circumstances will constantly change, but joy can remain whether life is good or difficult.

The enemy is after your joy. If he can snatch your joy, he can zap

Podcast Ep: 064 Richard Richardson | Overcomers Part 3

9

This week on the Fully Devoted Family podcast you get a different voice.

Richard Richardson spoke on Sunday and today you have two different ways you can catch up in case you missed it.

All you have to do is press the play button below and you can listen without interruption to the sermon.

If you prefer to watch the service then we have supplied that also.

Play

The Law Of Sowing and Reaping

Tractor Silhouettes

Although there are certain manmade laws upon the earth that can be willingly broken, there are also certain laws in the universe that cannot be overturned or broken. For instance, take the Law of Gravity. Most definitely, “what goes up must come down!”

But there is another particular law that is of the upmost importance — the law of sowing and reaping.

When we read the phrase, “sowing and reaping” we immediately begin to think of it in terms of finances. The Bible certainly teaches about sowing and reaping in the area of finances (2 Corinthians 9), but it also goes beyond that.

How often do we think of the term “sowing and reaping” as it pertains to our words and actions? Do we believe that the words we “sow” into others or say out loud just fall to the ground? Do we believe our actions just go away even after they are played or lived out?

Our words and actions can result in a harvest of great blessings or they can result

Re-Post | 4 Ways To Help Your Child Navigate Disappointment

Associate Pastor | Music Minister

arvil ogle and kids

— This is one of our most popular post to date here on fullydevotedfamily.com. Pastor Arvil Ogle shared an in the moment post about parenting his then 18 year old son Dylan. Information this good shouldn’t only be seen one time. For all of you that missed it the first time around, here is your chance. I hope you enjoy!

The time had arrived. Dylan, our 18-year-old son, has played basketball since he was 7 years old. This is his senior year.

Almost every season thru these years Dylan played along side his friend Zach. Zach has always been the guy you want on your team. He dominated with his talent and determination. But Zach graduated last May, so it was Dylan’s time to step up.

Dylan’s season started and his first 9 games Dylan played strong! Then on Dec. 13th, during the 10th game of the season, we were in the middle of a SCROOGE performance and I was backstage getting ready to go for my scene…. I get the message

Podcast Ep: 063 Overcoming Adversity | Pastor Beck Payne

9

We are in the middle of our Overcomers series at Family Church.

Our podcast today is from Sunday, April 12th, as Pastor Beck shared about overcoming adversity.

In case you would rather watch the service, just click below!

Sunday 4.12.15 from Family Church on Vimeo.

Play

Eternal Danger of Parenting Fantasies

Parents Playing Exciting Adventure Game With Children In Summer Field

I spent many years growing up thinking about my future family and what we would be like. I dreamed of perfect children, perfectly dressed, perfectly behaved, and perfectly lined up in a row. I was focused on being the perfect parent, wanting people to tell me what a good mother I was because of how well-behaved my children were. I learned very quickly into parenthood the eternal dangers of my fantasies.

Many times, parents fall into the temptation

Promoting Godliness In Our Children – Prayer

1e9699c918efb828a2d68cc1dadd9b9b

How do we pray for our children? How often do we pray for our children? What do we pray over our children? These questions do not have simple answers.

God takes children seriously, so serious in fact that in Matthew 18:6 Jesus says,

“If you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to have a large millstone tied around your neck and be drowned in the depths of the sea.”

That seems pretty harsh. Are you telling me, that if something I do, or allow my children to do, leads them into sin (not just the obvious big sins: steal, kill, lie, etc.; but also the not so big sins: bad attitudes, half truths, gossip, etc.), then I would be better off killing myself?

First of all, I’m not saying it, God’s Word says it.

So, yes!

God takes the raising of children seriously and so should we. This idea that kids are