Ever spent time around people who like to say no?
I for one am not a no kind of guy. I like to say yes and I like to hear yes.
I want to give myself the best opportunity to achieve YES.
Here are a few things that most people go through in order to arrive at a YES or NO answer:
- Am I interested?
- How much time?
- Is there a cost?
I believe these are good but not the most important questions.
Think about this.
Capacity – the facility or power to produce, perform, or deploy.
When someone asks me to help them dream or talk about how to sell something it does not even register as work for me.
That task takes almost no emotional capacity from me. I love it. It makes me a better person every time I get to practice it.
However, if someone asks me to help make a detailed plan for getting all their schedules combined into one, that is as if you just said carry this 50lb weight.
Possible? Yes. Can I carry that weight and the others I already agreed to?
Those things I can do. However they take a great deal out of my tank. It is way outside my natural gift mix.
I need to polish those areas of my life and become better at them but they are in no way life giving.
Here are the questions that run through my head now when offered an opportunity:
- What category does this fall in?
- Am I overloaded in that category?
- Do I have the physical time to participate?
Time is still a necessity when looking at opportunities. I would argue it may not be the most important thing.
Too often we let ‘time’ say no when gift mix would say yes. Gift mix would say that it could be a kingdom work.
A positive work. But because we have not managed our time we have to pass up an opportunity that is for us.
A great philosopher, Paul Trichel once said, “We can do anything, we just can’t do everything.”
In the end, I have one requirement which is to Love God with ALL of me.
Learning to approach opportunities with my capacity in mind instead of only consulting my schedule has changed my life in this area.
The reality is I need to be able to say yes. If I can organize my life I can say yes more often and enjoy it.