Proverbs 31:10 (ESV) says, “An excellent (or a virtuous) wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.” This word virtuous comes from the Hebrew word chayil, which means strength or power. However, it is not referring to physical strength, or to a woman who is very strong-willed. No, the writer here is describing to us a woman who is of strong character, morals, and values. A woman of strong principles, who lives in modesty, and with dignity. A woman who exhibits a strong mentality.
Notice that the verse asks who can find this woman? Do you know what that says to me? Gentlemen, if we want to find a woman like the one being described in this passage, we can’t do it within our own abilities – meaning that no amount of charm, good looks, or even muscles will ever draw her out. A man can try everything in his arsenal to find this woman, but it just won’t work. Why? Because she is not a normal woman!
This woman is virtuous. She is rare. She is so rare, that she is more valuable than a treasure chest full of gold. In fact, there is only one woman in the entire Bible directly referred to as a virtuous woman. Her name was Ruth. This type of woman can only be revealed by God, and He will only do this when it is the right time. She is hidden by the Father, because He loves her, and He wants a great man for her.
We need to remember this, as well, that God will never give us something so valuable unless He knows that we are ready for it, ready to be a good steward over this great gift. So men, if you have not found your helpmate yet, remember that it’s possible that she is right under your nose. It is possible that God has not revealed her yet, because you’re not ready.
Don’t give up and settle for less, or for the first woman who will give you some attention. Chances are, she is not the virtuous woman you need. Trust that God will lead you to her when the time is right. Until then, make the most of your time, and prepare yourself to be a good steward. Pray that God will open your eyes to see her when the time is right!