What He MUST Be For Me – Part 1

If one were to ask the women in a room full of people whether think chivalry is still active today among most young men, the majority of answers would likely be a resounding “NO!” Why is this the case?

I believe it has a lot to do with the fact that our culture has stopped demanding that boys grow into men. The standard has been lowered, thus creating a generation of men who have learned to simply conform to the status quo, rather than being transformed into authentic men of God.

When we think about knights, oftentimes what comes into our

Are You Ready for Your “Ruth”? A Note to Men.

Proverbs 31:10 (ESV) says, “An excellent (or a virtuous) wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.” This word virtuous comes from the Hebrew word chayil, which means strength or power. However, it is not referring to physical strength, or to a woman who is very strong-willed. No, the writer here is describing to us a woman who is of strong character, morals, and values. A woman of strong principles, who lives in modesty, and with dignity. A woman who exhibits a strong mentality.

Notice that the verse asks who can find this woman? Do you know what that says to me? Gentlemen, if we want to find a woman like the one being described in this passage, we can’t do it within

4 Mistakes Made in Dating Relationships

I have found that when it comes to relationships, and how they look and function in the church world today, they often look just like the outside world’s model. Many times Christian couples are engaging in relationships that are no different from the world. Why?

It could stem from some people’s beliefs that the Bible is “old fashioned,” and that it doesn’t really have anything relevant to say about relationships in the 21st century. Whatever the case may be, I believe that the structure of dating relationships within the church today need to change.

Here are 4 Common Mistakes that Christian couples need to avoid

What is Love?

In 1993 a musician by the name of Haddaway released his greatest hit song known as, “What is love?” Every time I hear this song, I think about Chris Kattan and Will Ferrell performing their Night at the Roxbury skit on SNL. As much as I laugh at this, I can’t help but think about the question being asked in this song.

Where do we get our definition of what it truly means to love? Out of these three: Hollywood, parents, and the Church, which one would you say has influenced you the most in helping you form your definition of what love is? If we were all honest,

Help! I’m Single!

In my experience of working with single adults, I have found one common thread that seems to run throughout. Almost all of them are in a deep state of resentment toward their singleness.

I often hear things like, “I am so lonely I’m just miserable.” Sadly, these people have bought into the lie of the culture, which paints the picture of singleness as a curse.

Thinking about it often leads many to desperation and a “woe is me” mentality that permeates every area of life. Surely, there must be a better perspective on this issue.

Does the Bible offer help or any advice for

Two approaches to Parenting your College Student

Two approaches to parenting your college student

When I graduated from high school, I thought I had it all figured out. Boy, was I ever wrong!! I found out really fast that I needed a little of Dad’s wisdom. When your son or daughter gets ready to head off to college, will you know what to do? Are you ready for this new and different season of life as a parent?

Let’s take a look at two different approaches to parenting during this season of a young man’s/woman’s life.

First, there is the common secular view, which states, very simply, that your job as a parent is

Part Two- Careful little eyes what you see!

careful what you see

So, what was our answer to the last question? Do our children know our story of faith? Do they know why we do what we do when it comes to things like reading our bible or going to church? What if our faith and the reasons for it became the foundation upon which we build a solid faith in our children? Well, that is exactly the model of education that God set up in the bible.

In Exodus 13 Moses is giving God’s instructions for the consecration of the firstborn. In verse 14 it says, “And when in time to come your son asks you, ‘What does this mean?’ you shall say to him, ‘By a strong hand the Lord brought us out of Egypt, from the house of slavery.”

Two things jump out at me. First, notice that the focal point of the conversation centers on the faith of the parents. In giving his testimony of what God has done in his own life, the parent gives the reasoning behind his actions. What is his answer? It is his personal testimony of what God has done in his very own life. He is introducing his child to his faith by introducing him to his God.

Secondly, notice that it is the child who is asking the questions and not the parent. He is asking out of a heart of curiosity, not obligation. He wants to learn and know why mom and dad do what they do. Him seeing their faith lived out has stirred a hunger for answers.

Here’s the kicker, in order for curiosity to be sparked, there has to be something intriguing about our faith that will make then want to learn. Lets put it in English. “Mom, why is daddy always reading that book?” “Daddy, why is mommy always praying?” Are you starting to get the picture? Our faith must be lived out in front of our children. It should make them want to know “what?” we do and “why?” we do it. Abraham Lincoln said “what children learn in the home today will be the philosophy of the leaders of tomorrow”. The question is, what are they learning and what are they seeing? The answer to this question determines what we, as parents, pass on to them.

Be careful Little Eyes what you see

A few weeks ago we had some beautiful fall weather blow in overnight, which prompted my wife to give our soon-to-be one-year-old daughter, Ruth, a bath out on our porch. While she was sitting in the plastic tub, an annoying bee kept buzzing around my wife. Suddenly, she released a grumbling sound of frustration under her breath. Without any hesitation our sweet little Ruth Ann reenacted what she had just watched and gave a little deep grunt of her own. At that moment my wife realized just how much our daughter was watching her.

When it comes to accepting our parenting roles as the primary ones