5 Steps To Biblical Community

Have you ever said that you would like to experience true biblical community?

Like many others that walk through the doors of Family Church, I have felt lonely at times.

The exciting thing is that God’s Word has a solution for all of us!

Below, you will find five steps that can help you move toward biblical community.

The fun piece about the process of experiencing biblical community is that you do not have to do all five steps at one time.

Let’s take a look!

Step 1: STEP OUT – Building a great friendship and experiencing true biblical community starts with a first step. First steps can include:

• Listening and engaging in social settings.
• Focusing the conversation on the other person.
• Praying that people will sense your genuine care for them and their circumstances.
• Attending an event for women/men/couples or a series at your church.

Step 2: FOLLOW UP – Remember a detail. It catches the attention of other people when we follow up on topics that they spoke to us about in our first encounter.

• Ask how their doctor visit went.
• Bring up their favorite sports team.
• Be consistent in the follow-up. If we act interested in one encounter, and the next time we barely have a moment for them, they will immediately question our interest         in them.

Step 3: SPEND TIME TOGETHER – Meet up at Starbucks, McDonald’s or the Sporting Goods Store.

• Don’t Get Discouraged! Ask again. Then, ask again.
• Understand that you may catch someone in an abnormally busy season of life and it is truly impossible for him or her to get together.
• Find a natural connection.
• Have someone meet you for coffee before church or a church event.

Step 4: BE HONEST – It is important from the very beginning of the friendship to be honest about who you are and what is important to you. God is highest priority in your life and will, hopefully, be in the conversations from the beginning.

• If this friendship is being built between two or three Christians – make God a very comfortable part of the conversation.
• It is important to be authentic and real at a pace that fits for both people.
• Many people get scared away if they know everything about you and there are no secrets after a first or second talk. Remember, you are not in a hurry.

Step 5: STUDY GOD’S WORD TOGETHER – Wouldn’t it be great if God/Bible talk were a part of every meaningful relationship? Biblical community is greatly enhanced when it is not weird for God/Bible talk to be scattered throughout any conversation.

• If you are at an event – do the assignments and don’t just talk about last night’s ballgame or child issue.
• Agree to attend a women or men’s event that makes it easy to talk about God’s Word and its affect on your life.
• Ask this new friend to help you lead a small group and both of you bring a friend.

Now you have a foundation to build on. You can truly learn how to give to others, love others, serve others, care for the needy, and reach the lost – which will help you achieve true biblical community.

The years that follow will offer opportunities to love in a way that proves we are disciples of Jesus Christ.

John 13:34-35 – “So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.”


Women Wear Panties, Men Wear Briefs

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“Women Wear Panties, Men Wear Briefs”

This is a post we shared with you in November of last year. Had quite a few comments about it so here it is again! Share with someone you think would enjoy!

If the title of today’s post catches your attention, and causes you to wonder where in the world that thought could have come from, then I really encourage you to be with us at Family Church on Sunday mornings. You never know the sorts of deep theological revelations you may miss when you are not in attendance; such as the above revelatory remark made by Pastor O’Neal on November 10th.

Although the comment was funny, and quite unexpected, how many of us have not had our mothers admonish us on a regular basis during our childhood

Are YOU winning at LIFE?

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What Are You Doing To Win At LIFE?

What did you do yesterday and what are you willing to do in the future to win?  What are you willing to do to win at life?

1 Corinthians 9:24-27

24 Don’t you realize that in a race everyone runs, but only one person gets the prize? So run to win! 25 All athletes are disciplined in their training. They do it to win a prize that will fade away, but we do it for an eternal prize. 26 So I run with purpose in every step. I am not just shadowboxing. 27 I discipline my body like an athlete, training it to do what it should. Otherwise, I fear that after preaching to others I myself might be disqualified.

Look In The Mirror Lately?

Guess what I see when I look in the mirror everyday now?  I see a man in his forties, who now shaves his head to avoid having “horse-shoe hair.”  I’ve always been a big guy.  Even when I weigh less than I do now, I am still a big guy.  That’s true all the way back to the husky tough-skins from Sears in grades 1-4.  The more I look for flaws

Our Trip to Mars Hill- Your Race

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Vicki and I were taken on the trip of a lifetime. First we flew to the city of Athens. I got to stand on Mars Hill where Paul preached his incredible message about the unknown God. Stood right between where Paul would have stood and faced the people with the Parthenon in the background.

From Greece we traveled to Ephesus, then to the isle of Patmos, then to the island of Crete, then last to the city of Corinth. If I’d had the time I would have had the pictures placed in such a way so that I could show you some of those things. In Corinth I stood exactly where the apostle Paul was brought

No Time for Stupid Things

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In 2006 Phil Michelson approached the 18th tee at the US Open championship. All he had to do was drive it straight, be safe and he would win the prize. Maybe explain what he did? Phil Mickelson changed the course of golf history.

Truth – We just can’t afford to do stupid things.

If we are going to win, we can’t do stupid things. And, we especially can’t do stupid things toward the end of the race because we may not have enough time to recover. Samson did, we may not. Phil Mickelson said he is such an idiot. And every time I hear him say those words what I hear him say is “what I did was so stupid.” Those last words on the commentary of the history of his life, Phil Mickelson’s mistake changed the course of golf history. Don’t do something stupid at the end of your race that will change your history that is going to be told.

Truth – Everything that matters is riding on our winning.

Not just our running, our winning. I have had a tie

I’ve lost because of my Poor Start

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Even if we start poorly, and our race hasn’t been run well, if we finally get our act together we can still win in the end.

I think of the 2008 Beijing Olympics. Michael Phelps is in the water, and is fighting hard against a fellow named Milorad Cavic. The commentators are saying Phelps can’t do it, he started wrong, he can’t win.

But Phelps finished well. By the width of a fingernail he reached out and won the gold. But he did that for an earthly prize. The greatest story of hope for you, and for me, is in the Bible. For those of us who haven’t started well, those who are struggling in the middle of our race, those of us who don’t think we can, here is the greatest story from all of God’s Word.

His name is Samson. He cries out to God, out of disgrace, out of shame, out of all those things that brought dishonor to his father and mother, but most importantly, brought dishonor to his God. God saw and heard Samson say, “I’ve done it wrong, but God I want to do it your way one more time – God, one more time. I want to do it your way, God.”

God gave strength to Samson, and the Word of the Lord says that he did more in that moment for God than he had done in all his life. It’s not the first mile that is so important, but the last mile of the race. It is in the last mile that the race might be won.

There were so many failures in Samson’s life, but as long as there was breath in his body there was still a birthright beating in his bosom. He was, and is, an Israelite. “God I’ve gone wrong, bring me back, God, give me power like I once had.” As long as there is the beating of your heart, there is the birthright beating in your bosom that wants to come to life.

We can still win at the end. We can, but not all do.

The finish line is approaching, be determined to finish well.

Take this Party Pooper Quiz for a better Christmas!

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As we get ready for Christmas gatherings, something hit me. Is the tone of this Christmas party dependent on me? My mood? Too many times growing up I pooped quite a few parties.

I know, right now if you know me you are trying to think of a party where I messed up the mood. How about stop that, and think on a positive note. Now that you’re off that bit of negative thought, let’s move on.

You probably have at least one or two parties or get togethers this week that will require

Avoiding a Tacky Christmas

Avoiding a tacky christmas

It’s said to be the most wonderful time of the year and for most—it certainly is.

Family, friends, presents, trees, gifts, lights, ornaments, Christmas carols, music, parades, parties, meals shared around the table, and most importantly—the celebration of the birth of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

But for many—it’s not always the most wonderful time of the year, but the most difficult time of the year. Distress, depression, discouragement, missed loved ones, reminders of Christmas pasts and the realities of what is and what is not in the lives of people hits them square in the face. Many times personal and family dysfunction seems to raise its ugly head for all to see—choking out